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How to End An Internet Argument

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I'm not right and neither are you.
Would that make things easier when you are engaged in an argument?
I am, admittedly, a debater. I nearly ALWAYS see the other side whether I try to or not. It's just the way my brain functions.

The internet and social media is not designed for that. It's like some sort of communal back-pat.
I had a brushup with another blogger on his site on the issue of listening versus reading on his blog. I wrote about some of the problems with audio here. I see little difference between reading and listening. I can grant that there might be more opportunity for noticing the subtle nuances in voice, but the reality is: if you don't know your audience, or have to write or speak to the broader masses, there is functionally little difference. More nuance means more opportunity to miss the point.

That is why the internet/social media reviles sarcasm and argumentative behavior.
I am sarcastic. Always was. Children and my wife have lessened that impulse in my body. But so much online calls for snarky quips. And yet, it and so much else can be lost whether is it is written or said. 

I wonder if all this adaptation to social media and interacting online is removing sarcasm and other hidden points? I doubt it, but it probably does mean you are being misconstrued.

People put this stuff out as if it was never being listening to or read, but then when confronted with opposing opinions still feel the need to slightly validate (wouldn't want to lose a commenter) or ignore the opinion (yes, you overly moderate comments). 

But I think most of it comes down to one simple thing: we don't want to be wrong when we share our opinion.

So, I suggest, with all sarcasm: "I'm not right and neither you."
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